In order to get what we want in life, we have to be willing to receive it when it appears, and in order to do that we have to be open.
We often go through life with defenses we developed early on in order to protect ourselves. These defenses act as barriers, walls we needed at one time to feel safe, but that now serve to shut out desired influences, like intimacy or love.
An essential part of being receptive to what we want is to soften these barriers enough to let those things in when they show up. (For example, we may spend a lot of time alone as a way to protect ourselves from being hurt by other people, but we can see how this is now preventing us from meeting new friends.)