“Happiness depends on ourselves.” – Aristotle.
One of the things I love most about traveling, is that if you want to be happy while going around the world you must learn how to be ACCOUNTABLE. “Happy people avoid blame in all its incarnations. They don’t blame other people, they don’t blame circumstances, and they don’t blame themselves. To happy people blame serves no purpose. It doesn’t ever get us what we truly desire. In fact happy people not only avoid blame but they also avoid its family members envy, greed and jealousy – which are among the key indicators of unhappiness. These reactions lead no place. The choice to be accountable is the choice to be masters of our own fate.” (The Choices Happy People Make)
When traveling in a new city or new country for that matter, many circumstances are out of your control and things may not unfold the way you expected them to. What is in your control is to be accountable for how you respond. You can get angry, righteous and prove your point right but none of this will make you happy. “No matter what life presents to us we have the ability to move forward, to do something good for ourselves, to make a difference, to have an effect.” Throwing an emotional blameful tantrum will keep you stuck, choosing to flow forward to promote your greater happiness inside the situation that presents itself.
You see I used to use blame as an emotional crutch. I used to say things like ‘I can’t travel because of my job, because my partner doesn’t want to, because I can’t leave teaching my students need me, because I don’t have enough money.’ The list would go on and on. The time on the yoga mat is where in a small increment – an hour we practice through poses saying to ourselves, I MAKE MY LIFE AND NO ONE ELSE MAKES IT FOR ME. It serves us as a reminder that “There is so much more joy in taking personal accountability than in being a victim. I actively participate in my life. The buck stops with me! I trust I am capable enough to handle anything that comes my way.” (The Choices Happy People Make)
So today ask yourself, what do you want your happy life to look like?
What intention do you have to be accountable for your life?
INTENTION: “Intention is an inner-driven desire to play in the ball game of happiness, accountability is its natural outcome – the urge to step up to the plate and hit the ball. Accountability is HOW intention comes to LIFE. Intention is cause and accountability is effect.” (Choices Happy People Make)
How can you hold yourself more accountable for your happiness? Even inside situations that are difficult can you see what part you have and explore what you can learn from the experience instead of blaming anyone or anything?
This week can you stop blaming your job, your life, other people for not “allowing you to travel” and experience the world? Instead learn to respond to what you’re feeing with authenticity. And remember keep saying to yourself, I make my life and no one else makes it for me!” If you want to go on a yoga retreat, YOU CAN. You have your own permission.
Love yourself, love your day, love your life! Silvia
- ABOUT SILVIA MORDINI, E-RYT, lululemon Ambassador, Life Coach, Teacher Trainer
Enthusiasm to love your life is contagious around Silvia. Her expert passion connects people to their own joyful potential. Silvia lives her happiness in such a big way that you can’t help but leave her classes, workshops, trainings and retreats spiritually uplifted!
Being a citizen of the world and spiritual adventurer is in her blood. Born in Ecuador, raised traveling around the world she is an enthusiastic friend gatherer who loves to discuss happiness psychology, poetry, music, books, travel and philosophy. She is a long-time love anthropologist and humble student of life who enjoys meeting interesting people, spiritual seekers, soul surfers and most anyone who makes her laugh.
Silvia currently resides in Seattle where she makes yoga approachable and inspiring for everyone. Her focus is on bringing more fun on the mat with the hope that how we practice our yoga becomes how we live our life. As an Experienced Yoga Teacher (E-RYT) with over 9,000 hours of yoga teaching experience who has been practicing yoga over the last 15 years after being run over by a car and using it to recover physically and emotionally.
Silvia is the creator of Alchemy of Yoga, a nationally recognized RYT200 Hour Yoga Teacher Training (Self-Study) Program in its 12 cycle. She owned a successful, well-loved Chicagoland yoga studio for 9 years. Silvia writes regularly for mindbodygreen.com along with producing her “Loving Your Day” videos and Love Your Life yoga blog. She is a proud lululemon ambassador, life coach and Manduka ambassador, who offers popular workshops on Living Your Yoga, Chakra Vinyasa, Hip-Hop Yoga, Yoga and Journaling, Ayurveda, Meditation and Manifestation. Silvia and her partner also lead Spiritual Adventure Yoga Retreats Nationally and Internationally through Alchemy Tours.
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